4/2/08

Groundhog Day

She was threatening to leave again today. She told her therapists that I had promised her they would move her to another facility. That was not true. Her therapists called me with her. She begged me for money to get on a plane home to talk to me face-to-face. I said no - that she was not welcome home against the recommendations of her treatment team. She said I was making her hitchhike across the country. I told her that was her choice to make, that I was not making her do anything. That I was recommending she stay in one of the best rehabs in the country so that she has a chance of recovery, because if she leaves she will die from this disease.

It was tough - being tough, but I managed to do it again. Here is what her therapist had to say to me later on:

...It is clear you have been working on yourself, keep it up as this is going to be a long process with [her]. One thing we discussed after our call is your participation in the family program. I would like you to attend the April program...I am not giving up on [her], nor am I going to let her intimidate me into letting her run her own show. She is in desperate need of help and I am confident when she stops fighting she will get the help she needs...Be proud of yourself, you did great this morning.
I'll sleep well again tonight.

4 comments:

Serenity girl said...

That is great, feel proud of your amazing strength in dealing with these very tough situations.

Great job!

Syd said...

You are keeping the focus on yourself and not enabling. Just read that Al-Anon pamphlet called Merry-Go-round of Denial and you'll validate that you are doing the right thing.

thejunkyswife said...

Wow! I ignore you for a few days, and look at all the stuff you've been up to!

Way to stand up for yourself. I find myself repeating things when I'm being strong with my husband, kind of like your "you are not welcome home against the advice of your caregivers" refrain. Something in repeating what I know to be the right thing gives me strength to keep on and on and on moving forward.

Anyway, I'm really impressed!

Catherine said...

Good for you! I had a moment like that not long ago - take care of you and by doing it - you are helping her to focus on herself - Bravo! cat